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Couples bookings and the ‘surprise threesome’
I love couples’ bookings. I am naturally attracted to both men and women and I get a lot of joy from seeing a couple in a loving, solid relationship allow each other to indulge in their fantasy of adding a third person into the bedroom.
Occasionally I get an enquiry requesting a “surprise” booking. It can look like this:
“Dear Anya, my girlfriend is really attracted to women and her birthday is coming up. I would like to surprise her with a threesome after we have been out for dinner - could you meet us at our hotel?”
or
“Dear Anya, my partner’s greatest fantasy is to be blindfolded and tied to a chair, I would love to then surprise them by having you enter the room - imagine their delight when they discover there are two mouths instead of one…”
Do both of these scenarios sound hot? Hell yes! Can I help you out here? Unfortunately not.
I think being the centre of attention or having a hot threesome is on the top of many fantasy lists, mine included. In theory I would jump at the chance to be the extra in your ‘surprise gift’ but, as a sex worker, I am going to need everyone’s full and informed consent. Without it I run the risk in the worst case scenario of being involved in an assault. And that is something I never want to happen.
We all know that being part of a couple involves a heavy amount of negotiation. Even the simple task of delegating the dishes can result in heated debates. Sex is no different and we all have different boundaries that deserve respect. Just because one partner may be fine with watching their lover in the throes of passion with another, we can’t expect the other partner to feel the same way. There are plenty of couples who will for example attend a swingers’ party but only one person is allowed to play, or one partner can be penetrated and the other can only receive oral. Each couple will have their own rules and it’s not for me to judge if they are fair or reasonable. My job is to respect those rules and to help create a memory that will make your faces light up with that cheeky, conspiratorial smirk of “what we did was so damn HOT”.
So if we’re all going to play together, we’re all three of us going to need to have a little chat about what you do and don’t want. Please, please tell me what you DO want. If your most secret fantasy is to watch your partner frisked for contraband by a sexy cop, I’m probably not going to be able to read your mind and you will need to spell it out. The same applies if you happy for me to perform full service with one partner but only indulge the other in oral. Or if you hate toys and love blindfolds, so on, so forth, et cetera. I understand this may not be the spontaneous fantasy you had in mind but you probably don’t want your relationship to be in crisis because you didn’t realise that your partner didn’t really want a threesome, just did it to make you happy and halfway through couldn’t handle watching you with someone else.
If you really want the surprise factor, there is only one way that I can think of it being a viable option. Meet for a couples booking first, with everyone’s informed consent, then all agree that at a future unspecified date, we do the ‘surprise booking’. Imagine the anticipation of not knowing when that is going to happen. Hot! But we will still need to have some kind of a safe word that I will remind you of in that surprise date, so that at any time, anyone can reasonably change their minds.
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