Respect – you want it? Well, you gotta earn it.
It’s a common theme. You hear it all the time. Give it a few weeks, you’ll hear it again. Respect. The topic crops up all the time. Respect. We punters need to learn to respect the girls. We punters need to treat the ladies with a certain minimum standard of decency which demonstrates that we respect them. Fair enough, I fully concur, no argument there, all for it.
But what about respect in the other direction? The one where the girls need to respect the punters? Where is that discussion? Is that even discussed? I’m talking about the whole concept of respecting that the punter has spent his blood, sweat and tears earning some dosh so that he can pay for a bit of fun, and the respect of those very dollars?
This is not a pricing whinge, although some aspects of the rant could be misconstrued as being one. The number of girls now expecting the $600+, $700+, $800+ range has ballooned in the past 18 months, with so many thinking that $800 is something every punter blows his nose with. But that is not the focus of my rant.
I’m talking about the times when a sob story desperate girl comes crying to me to say that they are in a real jam, and they need to BORROW some cash to get them out of that jam, promising to pay me back. Some of them pay me back in due course, either in cash or in bookings, but they honour their word. But there have been some who have consistently and conveniently forgotten their debt. And then, they go quiet, they “retire”, they change their name, or just simply vanish off the radar, and they simply never honour their word.
Mind you, I’m not as big a softie as you think I am. It wasn’t like “hey, give me $3k, I’ll pay you back”. Most of the situations have been “I’m in a jam, I have some cashflow problems, you’re going to see me in 2 weeks, could you please pre-pay and we’re sorted?” only to have a cancellation happen the day before, the week before, sometimes even the afternoon of the booking after I’d flown all the way from Melbourne to whatever city it was we were going to have the booking in. Then, when they cancel, they promise to make good, but calendar challenges happen, and they offer to pay me back, but never do. Where’s the respect and the integrity then? How do they expect me to respect them when they don’t demonstrate the decency of even acknowledging the debt and making some sort of effort to repay me?
Honestly, I had one girl who owed me $6k actually offer to repay me at $10 per month. Go ahead, laugh, but she was serious! I had another one literally say to my face that seeing as I spent over $100k per year on punts (judging from the reviews), the $3k was nothing to me and I shouldn’t get hung up about it. I’ve had another who would borrow $1500, then pay back $300, then borrow another $1500, then pay back $300, then borrow another amount again. That may be a cool dance, but it’s stretching the friendship way too far.
I try and be all nice and friendly about this, understanding of their circumstances or the curve balls that life throws at them. But sometimes I just have to be a cunt to get my point across, because fair is fair, if I wanted to fuck up a few thousand dollars into thin air, I’d rather have a choice as to what I can do with it, not have someone else just abscond with it. So, to date, I have had debt collection agents working to recover these debts for me. Not surprisingly, a couple have “suddenly declared bankruptcy”. Fine, if they want to go to such lengths to avoid repayment, that’s fine. At the end of the day, they have fucked up their credit rating, they have fucked up their ability to borrow, they have fucked up their freedom of liquidity. But more importantly, they have totally fucked up the respect they demanded from me. Naming them publicly here will do no one any good, but those who have trusted my intel before, and have benefited from such, are more than welcome to it.
I feel sorry for these spineless creatures. They want respect, they demand respect, they crave attention, but they lack integrity. What is worse is that they ruin it for the girls who do actually value the concept of respect, integrity and honour very highly.
By contrast, I can name you a handful of girls right now whom I have the utmost of respect for. These girls may demand deposits or pre-payment but as soon as arrangements fall through and a cancellation results where a re-schedule within a day or two of the original is not possible, they ask me for my account and without fail, the money shows back up. I don’t even need to ask. And yes, they are the more “high profile ones”, those who have made a name for themselves where they are known simply by a single name. Names like Christine, like Jasmine, like Cristal. They don’t need to earn my respect, they already have it in spades – they had it the moment they respected my hard earned dollars, no matter how quickly I earned it or how much I spent on punting.
So, I’m all for treating the girls like professionals and for meeting their demands for deposits and/or pre-payments. But respect? That’s a big word, and if you want it, you gotta earn it.