Blog #3 - "Why Escorts Save Marriages" A somewhat controversial piece that is nothing more and nothing less than my personal opinion.
The few friends who know what I do for work often raise the topic of morals, in particular, tending to share their personal views on married men who seek the company of an escort, asking me how I can do what I do knowing that the client 'belongs' to another woman? My friends are acutely aware that I have personally experienced the hurt that comes with "a cheating man" so naturally they struggle to understand how I can be a part of such a situation and do it for a job? Well, surprisingly, I personally feel that I am doing both the wife and the marriage itself a good deed (for want of a better description.)
Now before you go making a judgement, I ask that those of you who strongly resent my claim, to please read on, keeping an open mind to my reasoning? So here we go . . .
A man needs sex. A man will get sex if he needs it. If his wife is unavailable to satisfy this primal instinct (for whatever reason it may be) then he is likely to be more susceptible to both the advances of other women and to his own desires of attraction. Now Im certainly not saying that he will definitely go hunting for it just a week or month after not having sex with his wife or partner, and he is highly likely to be supportive and tolerant of his own needs if his wife is pregnant or unwell, but under certain conditions where a man feels that he is being ignored sexually for 'no good reason' he will naturally (biologically) begin to sway?
We all know of marriages that are experiencing this type of 'sexless' relationship - they are our friends, our relatives, and sometimes ourselves - and lets face it, most men don't cope with it too well! A woman on the other hand (generally speaking) can go without sex for extended periods of time without feeling this overwhelming, primal need to 'get off' (for want of a better word.) I therefore believe he has 3 options:
he can remain abstinent (and unhappy)
he can go out and meet another woman, or
he can employ the services of a professional escort.
The first option just makes for an unhappy man, which in turn, will more than likely lead to an unhappy home and possibly the end of a marriage? Not what we want.
The second option is the most dangerous for marriages as he begins opening his eyes to other women around him or in todays e-world, exploring dating sites, gaining the attention of love hungry women, who are not looking for sex per se in order to satisfy their sexual urges, but a relationship. He LOVES the attention and his mind suddenly begins to wander and before he realises what is happening, he begins to ponder the possibilities of life with another woman?
The final option a man has in order to ensure he is sexually satisfied is to employ the services of an escort. This is the least dangerous option for marriage breakdown (so long as discretion is involved) and the best option for all stakeholders - the man, his wife and the escort. An escort is there to be a professional; to provide the service requested of her in a manner that is second to none. She is usually a very sexually liberated woman who prides herself on appearance, is warm and friendly, and is attuned to understanding and satisfying her client's sexual needs. Payment enables the encounter to remain professional ie a business transaction if you will, which keeps that professional line between escort and client ever present. She does not want to steal you away from your wife, rather just to enjoy a mutually satisfying enjoyable few hours doing the job she is paid to do. At the end of the booking, he is happy, and completely sexually satisfied, allowing him to return home to his wife with just that little bit of an extra skip to his step, a little more patient and understanding, and just that little bit lighter on the scales (he he ) !!
Holly Jacques xx