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The (Lost) Art of Fingering


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blog-0447523001384242940.jpgFingering seems to have become something of a lost art, to the point that the comedian Micky Flanagan is blaming the rise of teenage pregnancy in the UK on its demise.

 

People used to spend much more time just feeling their way around each others bits and pieces.

Mind you, those were the days when going from first to second, and then from second to (holiest-of-holy) third base could take weeks, if not months! Even the transition from touching above the sweater to touching below the sweater was an achievement sometimes on par with the taking of Troy (or at least its twin hills).

 

Recently, I was asked how I feel about a bit of fingering. My answer to that is, on two conditions: that the finger in question is well-manicured and deployed with skill and sensitivity.

 

Unlike the penis, there is an actual bone in a finger and unless you have the ultimate sausage fingers, there is not much padding around that bone. And unlike boning with a penis, stiffies are less desirable for fingering.

Bad fingering feels like being jabbed by a twig. Sometimes a twig with a talon on one end.

Someone once likened the sensation of a freshly clipped nail snagging her lady bits to getting a paper cut in the eye.

Files and buffers are your friends, use them.

 

As for the how-to, there is no one right way of doing it, but your finger should mimic the movements of an eel rather than a drill bit. For once, forget everything you have seen in porn, especially lesbian porn, and just FEEL.

Yes, there are women who like to be masturbated with turbo-powered bottle brushes, but rather than jumping to conclusions, this is one opportunity where you want your partner to tell or show you exactly where and how to touch her and do exactly that even if it flies against everything you believe a woman would like in this situation. If your partner is less vocal about her needs, you will have to take your clues from her body language.

Squirming to get away from you? Back off.

Wriggling to change the angle, depth or rhythm? Adapt.

Pushing up against you, cooing, moaning, shuddering, squirting? You the man.

 

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Ooh, I just love to finger a lady. Several fingers in fact. With my fingers inside, I'm like a blind man getting to know all the features of that wonderful place. And finding the g-spot FTW!

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Nice simile, Don Quixlong. And there I was thinking, a blind wife and a deaf husband make a good marriage :-)

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I believe that fingering, when carried out with sensitvity and feeling (sic) together with a well placed tongue, is the ultimate in foreplay.

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There was a thread on this a while with some ladies hating the idea and some not being able to get enough.

From a male point of view I do a little exploring and from this you get a good sign if the lady likes it or not.

Some run - some grab hand and direct you in with all variations in between.

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MelbournePunting

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Agreed. I love fingering and kissing as foreplay. My mouth is doing one thing, and my fingers are doing theirs. Don't know why more people don't do it

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I agree that fingering is such a wonderfully sexy way to pleasure a woman. It just feels so damn sensual, and to me the word "fingering" even sounds erotic. 

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